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1. Why does a humiliation fantasy turn me on so much and how can I turn it into a reality?
Submitted Question - I am a man in my early 50s and I have been cross dressing since I was about 14-years-old. None of my friends or work colleagues know about me being Sarah. I have a great desire to be outed, punished and humiliated by a woman. I dream about a woman having all my photographs in womens underwear and sexy baby doll nighties and negligees and also for her to have the email addresses of all my friends and colleagues. I would never send them the pictures myself because I would be in control of how far to take it. If another person had this information it would be out of my control and there would be nothing I could do to stop my humiliation. Why does this excite me so much and how can I turn this fantasy into a reality?

Answer - Let me first start out answering why it is so exciting. Humiliation plays a good size role in BDSM or domination. I personally am not into it, but from what I have read the one being humiliated finds it enjoyable, typically sexually, because it is a big form of flattery and attention. Think of it this way, a teacher calls on you to come up in front of the class to read out loud an assignment you did. She thinks its great and wants everyone else to hear it and yet you are embarrassed to have to do it. She's complimenting you even though at the time you find it humiliating. If you weren't worth the time then you wouldn't be chosen or in this case outed. The humiliation is a huge rush. And knowing that someone holds your fate in her hands and not knowing if, when or how she is going to out you adds to that rush even more. You're like a little kid before Christmas waiting anxiously on pins and needles for the big day and to see exactly what you're going to get. Now as for how to turn it into a reality... Obviously I would suggest finding a Mistress who is interested in this kind of fantasy. You have to figure out if you want a Mistress who is just going to tease you with the info or if you want one who will blackmail you either financially or for more photos/videos that she could later use against you, or both! Decide what you want your ultimate goal to be and to see if you're potential Mistress is on the same page as you. Obviously there will need to be something in it for both of you so you need to decide what you want from her and are willing to give back so you can find the perfect Mistress for making your fantasy of public outing and humiliation come true.